Live Loved LaShell
Follow Breanna as she runs a nonprofit , figures out life, and just enjoys each moment as it comes her way.
I am a recent college graduate and have no idea what to do with myself.
I was fortunate enough to graduate with my BBA with a concentration in Entrepreneurship from Anderson School of Management at the University of New Mexico (Go Lobos!!). Leading up to graduation I had SO many emotions, my poor family truly loves me y’all cause I was a mess. I battled with thoughts like “who am I if I am not a student?” School is something I have dedicated myself to doing extremely well in. I made A Honor Roll all throughout primary school, graduated #5 in a class of almost 500 students in high school. I made Dean’s List all 7 semesters of college and graduated Summa Cum Laude… That’s the thing about throwing your entire life into something, when it’s gone you question your identity, your worth , your value. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with striving to do well in school, but I did so much more than that. I allowed myself to be consumed by my education. It became a hiding place, a central intricate part of my identity and then I graduated. I graduated and the identity I had assigned to myself for the majority of my life was no longer valid, making me question my value, my purpose, my worth.
I was faced with the question, “Who am I if I’m not a student?” I wrestled with this question for weeks when finally I came to a new question, “Who do I want to be now that I am not a student?”
Y’all what a freeing question! For the first time in a very long time I had the feeling that I could be absolutely anyone or anything. I had the time and the resources to explore new things to make new mistakes and to pursue my passions that had been put on hold in order to excel in my education.
Maybe I will find something new to throw my life into, or maybe, just maybe I will find joy in many new somethings. Personally, I’m hoping for the latter because then instead of a ”student” or an “XYZ” I get to just be “Breanna” and I’m really looking forward to discovering just who “Breanna” is.
So what is the label you have attached your identity to? Is it student? Teacher? Mother? Friend? Daughter? Dancer? Athlete? Musician? Something else entirely? Whatever it is I challenge you to step back and rediscover the you behind the label. The one certainty of life is that nothing will ever remain exactly the same. Seasons change, interests shift, people grow up and you eventually graduate. We change and the labels we give ourselves will also change, when it does you have to be comfortable with the you that is left behind. I hope you take the time to love the true you right here, right where you are. Don’t be like me and have a straight identity crisis at 21, you have the ability to separate labels from identity, all you have to do is make the decision to.
Hoping this realization is as freeing to you as it has been for me. Praying this next season is beautiful, vibrant, fruitful, and oh so freeing!