Live Loved LaShell
Follow Breanna as she runs a nonprofit , figures out life, and just enjoys each moment as it comes her way.
This is a question I often ask myself, especially during this time my life where the real world is just beginning. Many times I sit back and think about my future career, my life,and things I want to do and be. Most importantly, I think about the impact I want to make. I think about the person I want to see in the mirror 10, 20 or even 50 years from now. Yes I can become successful for myself and even gain all the things that's society sees as important like wealth, power, and fame. However, to me those things don't matter nearly as much as this smiles I inspire, the hearts I lift, and the overall impact I have on this world when it's time for me to leave it.
Success is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as "the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame." Personally I think this is the greatest example of the struggles our world faces. If being successful is determined by the materialistic things the world has to offer, I don't want any success. My family, my friends, my faith, the love and kindness I witness on a daily basis ( and constantly take for granted) are the things I want to fill my life with. I would love to become a person that people think highly of, a person that people reach for when things are tough, a person that exudes love and kindness like oxygen. If this is the only thing I ever accomplish in life I'll be proud of the woman I become.
What kind of person would you like to be and what is your definition of success? I would love to hear about it in the comments or through email!
So today is National Best Friend Day so naturally I have to give a shoutout to my two best friends! The first is my spunky blonde Paxton. We have been friends almost 4 years now but she has become more of a sister compared to a friend. I have never met such an amazing, kind hearted, tell you what she thinks woman like Paxton. We have had a lot of great times and gotten each other through some pretty awful lows and I can honestly say I have no idea where I would be without her. She keeps me on my toes and reminds me that it is okay to have a little (or a lot) of fun sometimes and that life is about more than doing exactly what's expect of you.
The next is my amazing momma. She is there for everything and gets me like no one else. The older I have gotten the more our friendship has flourished and I feel so lucky because of that. She is such an outstanding woman and I am constantly amazed at all she does for the people she loves. Her heart is bigger than life, and that is one of my absolute favorite things about her. I am so inspired by the person she is and I am incredibly blessed to have her as a mother and a friend. ❤️
I hope everyone takes advantage of letting the special people in your life that you get to call your best friend know how much they mean to you. The really special ones who build you up, make you better, and inspire you to do more than you ever could have imagined are the people who make life worth while. Do not make the mistake of taking them for granted!
I'm lucky enough to have these two wonderful women in my life and so many more close friends and family. I hope that they all know what they mean to me!
So anyone who knows me understands that I am a crazy color coding, already thinking about 10 years into the future planner. I love knowing what to expect and what I am doing with my life. Control and structure are my close friends and I am more than happy with this. However.... It would appear that no amount of planning would have prepared me for the turns my life has taken in just a year. Before I started college I was planning on being a doctor, and attending a college where most of my friends where going. I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted... But I was wrong. Things happened and I completely jumped ship. I changed my major, I went to a school where I knew literally no one, I escaped the town I have lived my entire life. I ran away from everyones opinions, expectations, and thoughts about who I was, what I should be and where I would end up. And I learned SO much, but the most devastating thing I learned was that my plan was wrong (so completely and totally wrong). Everything I thought I knew about my life and the direction I was headed turned out to be a complete dead end. It was like I was starting all over but this time I had no direction, no clue where to start or how to get where I was going.I was at a loss as to what I should do next and what was truly going to make me happy. Now don't get me wrong, the core stuff, the really important stuff was still there but I no longer knew the direction I needed to take it. The fact that I love people especially kids, that I want to help others more than anything, that I am striving to be a good, kind, exemplary human being, was all still there, but the way I wanted to express them shifted. I realized that all the things I thought I wanted was more of a reflection of what I felt I had to be in order to be accepted and respected, not a reflection of what made me happy. I realized that if my goal was to please everyone around me I would never be able to please myself (and at the end of the day I'm the only one that I have to make happy, no matter how much I tell myself differently). By running away from my home, my life, my problems, and ultimately myself I learned some of my most important lessons. I learned about my hopes, my dreams, my aspirations. I discovered a Breanna I had no idea existed. For the first time in my life I feel so free but also so incredibly lost. It was as if someone had hit reset and everything in my calendar had gotten erased and I had to start fresh. A clean slate, a new blank piece of paper. A new plan needed to be made but this time it had to be about me. It had to include my needs, my dreams, the things that would make me want to get up out of bed every morning. And here I am... A 19 year old young woman with her own website and blog hoping to touch lives through her motivational speaking (and to think I started off thinking I would be a doctor!) There is still so much that I am discovering about myself but I finally feel excited about what I could do and the places I could go. I finally care more about the experience than the plan, and I finally know that at the end of the day my happiness is a priority that has to be thought of. It is okay not to have it all together, and it is okay not to have it all planned out, sometimes the unexpected is the most needed.
With all this being said I think that believing you have it all together only to have it all fall apart is one of the hardest things people have to face but also one of the greatest blessings they can receive. If you take all of that crazy brokenness you have the ability to shift, mold, and rebuild. Knowing that you don't have to put everyone else before your wants and your needs, and that being something different from the expectations that have been brought before you is okay, is so crucial. Most importantlyI think that a person has to learn to know that it is okay to be absolutely and completely happy even if no one approves of why. I have had the chance to talk to so many people, and watch not only their struggles but also their triumphs. I have had personal experiences and second hand views of having everything you thought you knew fall apart right before your eyes. Yet still life goes on... I had a really smart lady tell me once "The sun will keep shining, and the earth will keep spinning." And it will, regardless of what you thought you knew and wanted and in spite of any plans you were silly enough to make. Maybe it is better to focus more on the person you want to be and the things you want to do instead of the plan to get you there. Having a clear of the person you truly are outside of everyone else will allow the plan you need to follow to fall right into place.
Yes, your plan fell apart but maybe (just maybe) it wasn't your world falling apart but finally falling together.
Life gets really hectic sometimes. There are days that nothing goes right and where it feels like everything is falling apart. When this happens, I think the hardest thing is realizing that it is life and that no matter how much we would like to change it that isn't our job. I am a true believer in the saying "everything happens for a reason" but even then it is hard to swallow the fact that things happen... So what can we do? We may not be able to control the world and the things that happen to us but we can control our reaction. We can control our attitudes and the way we treat others. We have so much power when we allow ourselves to use it. Yes, things may be hard, but keep pushing, keep fighting, keep loving and helping those who you know need it. Our lives may be full of difficulties but that shouldn't decide what and who we are, it is just another stepping stone to shape and mold us.
I am not saying that you can't be sad, or that you can't be disappointed by the hand you have been dealt at times. I am saying that if you allow yourself to be a result of everything bad that life gives you then you can never grow into the person you could be. Allow your circumstances to mold you and push you to do better and be better. You won't always succeed and it won't always be easy but it will help you more than you could ever imagine.... or at least it has helped me. By changing my perspective and believing that I was meant to be more than I am and more than what my setbacks make me I have grown more than I have ever thought possible. So keep pushing forward, keep growing, keep striving to be better than whatever you have going on in your world. ... And just maybe, after all of that you will find what you're looking for and who you are supposed to be.
Do you have a specific way you deal with trials and hardships? I would love to hear about it!